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Making A Fair Assessment: Can You Really Say Goodbye?

Learning lessons in life and applying them will only work if you are not repeating the same lessons over and over again. For example, I know that it is very important to establish a solid foundation in relationships and friendships. Neither one will exist if that foundation is weaken. Far too often, we don't take time to work on relationships. Unfortunately, we make the mistake of thinking that one of the easiest route out is to say goodbye. If we don't have closure, walking out never solves a problem in a relationship and that same problem will be repeated over and over again.

Simply saying that he is not the one without sound justification is not enough. Is he not the one because he lies and cheats? Is he not the one because he had abused you and your relationship? Is he not the one because both of you have not communicated your feelings? Answer these questions truthfully and you may find out that you are the problem. If you can honestly make a fair assessment and determine that you are not the problem, walk away, learn from your lessons, forgive and say goodbye.

If your assessment proves that you are lying to yourself and/or playing games, stop the insanity and grow up.

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